Begin with an End in Mind

 

This poem is to encourage us, mortal man that is okay to fail. All we need is to have a helping hand to get up.

 

Failure is the mother of success! All the people of this earth fail at one time or another. The difference between a true failure and a success person is the latter knows when to get up while the failure still wallows in the ground, calling foul and blaming others.

 

My son just came back from his driving test…. and you guessed it, he failed. Now instead of looking squarely in the face and said he will try again, he kind of led himself into defending that there was a guy who did not let him go. Road courtesy (the real world) is not about to happen worst still if you are a L driver taking test.

 

Well, I had to advise him, what can you learn from here and move along to the next station of life…

 

I guess he felt better as he has gone to the gym. Failure sometimes eats you up because you feel  utterly out of control and that the whole world has crashed down

 

Anyway, we are not perfect creatures. Adam failed. So we should not be hard on ourselves.. pick yourself up and move on. God has better plans for you. Getup and Get going.. the world is waiting for failures because at least you have the experience to avoid it in the future.

 

 

It means – God has a better way for you.

Everyone has to make mistakes in order to grow. A child is sure to fall when he learns to walk. The important thing is he gets up! Many people who refuse to get up and see new ways still wallowing in their failure attitude. Most Illustrious personalities failed before but got up are.

1.     Henry Ford – he forgot to put a reverse gear in his first
automobile.

2.     Thomas Edison – Spent millions of dollars on
an invention which has little value.

We need not be caught in the ‘failure’ and ‘sickness” attitude that captures our minds. These are people who never amount to anything new, they refuse to change. Remember that pride comes before a fall! There are far too many beautiful things we can enjoy as Nat King Cole sang “It’s a wonderful world.”

Here are a list containing reasons why people do not want to change and still live in captivity? Provided is answers that you can use… to overcome them.

1.     It’s because they are afraid of another failure

a.     Answer: You deserve a second chance. No one is successful in their first trials. The Wright brothers took several attempts to fly off the ground.

2.     Wounded pride and did not want to accept any advice. It’s personal pride. He is smarter than anyone else

a.     Answer: We must leave our pride aside. Failure is not saying that we are stupid. There are other reasons and we should be kind to ourselves.

3.     Self preservation. These failures term themselves as losers and feel that changes would make them lose face. Some feel that they are born that way and should not change for fear that the god may not like it.

a.     Answer: It’s better to bite the bullet and take stock now than leave nature takes its course. It’s better to change because these gods have no power to influence the living if you choose it.

4.     Destructive Attitude. This is the most problematic of them as they feel that if he cannot bring about progress, no one can. They would rather see their lives rot away while progress is made by their competitors elsewhere.

a.     Answer: Take heart. Save your fellow colleague or workers and loved ones. Hold a meeting and ask for suggestions. You will be surprised by the amount of help you can get.

5.     Team player- they are not team player, cannot accept advice. Dr Covey mentioned that the effective people work well with others to synergize.

a.     Answer: Team work is always the best way to achieve sustainable successes. One plus One is equal to Five or more. Team member that cares for each other will go a long way.

6.     Giving up too soon. Before the project would come to an end, they give up!

a.     Answer: There is no patience or persistency in driving for success!

7.     Burnout. Some of them felt no matter what they do they are blank in the mind.

a.     Answer: Take a break or holiday. Spend a day doing nothing. It’s our duty to look after our body and seek help when emotional imbalances take place.

8.     Angry: Some of us feel angry with ourselves of why we fail? We are high IQ people and some lower IQ people have succeeded.

a.     Answer: This kind of jealously thinking comes from scarcity mindset. We must not feel inadequate ourselves. Do not be hard ourselves!

9.     Sickness in the Spirit, Depression. Some failures come in as a result of inferiority complex or low esteem.  This comes about from a broken spirit, mysterious fatigue, mild depression etc that leads to mood swing.  Being too critical about oneself. This is compounded when the balance of life is not there… there have been failures in marriage, disappointment, accidents and disasters. Loss of employment and carrying a burden for another… Added to that are Stress and other matters. In modern world living, Mr. Stress, Mr. Worry are abound. Coupled with that, there is rising costs of living and high unemployment rate.

a.      Answer: When you are in this kind of mood, whereby there has been a series of setbacks and you do not seemed to be able to get out of this cycle, you need to  seek professional or spiritual help

10. Failure of Health- Junk Food and Poor nutrition. Many people look at lives to complete their tasks at hand without counting the costs of health failure. I have friends who are rich but suffer from cancer and their quality of lives suffers.

a.     Answer: Have a good nutritious food and plenty of exercise. Do coffee enema or other programs to rid of body toxin are advisable as the accumulation causes build-up of free radicals which causes cancer.  Healthy body leads to Healthy Minds. Prayer helps too.